We’ve been a little quiet lately because we’ve been in full on rebrand mode. Finally things are slowing down and we are getting the hang of this whole being in business together thing. We said a few weeks ago what our passion was for marriages not just weddings (to see that blog post and read more click HERE) and we are excited and ready to share what that means for our business ministry. We are photographers who strive to create an amazing experience for our couples but more than that we have a huge desire to see our couples blossom while they experience this crazy adventure together. So welcome, officially to our new Blog Series on marriage: A Cord of Three Strands.
Recently I (Tianna) read this article by Fat Mum Slim called, I’m not a liar but Facebook sure is. The article address this new age issue we have about perpetrating our lives as seemingly perfect when in reality things very well may be exploding. Well…we are some of those annoyingly encouraging people. We try our best not to complain or rant or air our dirty laundry on facebook. Mostly because no one wants to see that. But #truth…I promise that doesn’t mean we don’t have our share of crazy days. We’ve had several of our friends say they admire our marriage. Almost nine years together, seven and a half married, one daughter later and yes we are still married and yes a good chunk of those days are spent beyond happy. But TRUST ME when I say that all of that has come with a lot of hard work, some major struggles, countless hours of prayer, and yes…even some marital counseling.
So in this blog post we wanted to do something we don’t think you will see many married people ever do. We want to be brutally honest and vulnerable. So:
Hey World, the Yentzers are just coming out of a rough patch. And we’re ok. Not every day these past few months has been a walk in the park. We fought. We slept in different rooms. We cried…a lot. We prayed a lot. There was some yelling. Admittedly there were days when I (Tianna) felt like I was banging my head against the wall. And some days when Andrew wanted to shake some sense into me. But we’re here. And we’re good. Not great just yet, but we will get there. We always do.
Selling a business, contending with life with a one year old, finances, merging our work lives, transitioning out of military life, selling our house and trying to find a new more affordable place to live, and all that while still trying to be “head over heels in love”. Just in typing all of that I’m (Tianna) getting a teeny bit stressed out. And that’s just our current situation! We have been through more than most people would guess. MUCH more. We’ve got some skeletons in our closets but God has brought us through and with every trial he has brought us closer together.
HA! I’m sure there are a few of you out there asking why? Why tell all us strangers out here your business? Well…because we so wish MORE people were REAL. The more we all fake that everything is ok 24/7 the more unhappy we are gonna find that we become. I know when things are all cray and I look over and see that Susy-so-and-so is blissfully happy I look inward and question myself and our very ability to survive or “make it all work”.
Now we’re not saying everyone should just walk around airing their personal business everywhere. But we are hoping and praying you have a few close people in your lives that you can turn to for council and support. A friend who will let you sit on their couch and cry it out, an older couple who has some great wisdom, and we promise their is NO SHAME in seeking professional counseling. We all need someone UNBIASED we can be real with. For years we tried to go at it alone and that never worked out so great. It’s amazing what getting love, help, and support from others who had triumphed did for the well being of our family.
Friends, it is our desire to make sure you know you ARE NOT ALONE. Marriage is a lifelong mystery but the peaks and valleys make this incredible journey is so worth it. To our friend out there reading this that may be discouraged, we wanna say we were with you, and we expect these “rough patches” to happen many more times in our marriage. And that’s ok. Going through a rough patch means you are an imperfect human married to an imperfect human. Love isn’t perfect and that’s what makes it SO amazing!
Love, Andrew & Tianna
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